Moms, Are We Enough? and My Favorite Creamy Chicken Chili
While cruising through Facebook today, I came across a post from a friend that was getting lots of Facebook "traction." She has children ranging in age from one to elementary school age. Her honest and witty post described a current dilemma many moms face. Simply put - at times we struggle to enjoy this motherhood gig and can often feel that we are not enough. This friend shared her real challenge and then a story about a little victory in her day. Moms far and wide chimed in with similar sentiments and congratulatory "high five" remarks.
I remember when my trio was younger there was a season where I literally woke up and immediately started praying face down in the pillow that God would give me the physical strength and endurance to make it through another day of lifting, carrying, holding, and moving three little people and all the big things they needed in that stage of life. (He answered that prayer - thankfully!) I also remember shedding a few tears many evenings after the children were in bed because I felt like I had failed as a mother. I knew in my heart that I was simply going through the motions with the kids. My heart wasn't always in it. And because of that, I felt guilty. I felt sad. I felt discouraged. I felt that I wasn't enough.
BUT - thankfully God revealed something to me in that season that changed me. Or rather, it changed my perspective - which then changed me. When reading my Bible one night I was reminded of Psalm 139 where it says that "You created my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother's womb. ... All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." This message of encouragement washed over me then. God was not surprised that I had triplets. God was not shocked that one of my daughters had some special needs. He knew me - and specifically gave me my unique family. He knew my specific talents (and my many weaknesses!), and yet knew that I was the correct mother for my three very specific children. Because of this, I could rest assured that "With God's help - my feeble efforts in motherhood are enough. In fact, they are better than "just enough." They are perfect for what MY specific children need.
I can't even begin to tell you how heavy of a burden this lifted off my shoulders. There was joy. Suddenly, even on the days I was more like a zombie than Mary Poppins - it was o.k. God had made me enough.
Just today as I was writing this newsletter, I received a call from a medical specialist indicating that we need to pursue further testing to investigate some other potential medical issues. In the past I would be tempted to worry or fret that I wouldn't have what it takes to help my daughter be her best. The old me would think that I couldn't possibly be enough. But, my perspective has changed. I am now confidently assured that God created me for this specific purpose and for this specific role as her specific mom. And, He says that with Him, I'm enough. Thank goodness!
Are you getting ready to add a new member to the family and feeling anxious about your ability to handle everything? Juggling a career and motherhood and feeling maxed out? Perhaps you are facing a new challenge the classroom or a have gotten a recent diagnosis. Maybe you too feel your efforts are feeble - or that you are not quite enough. If so, then grab hold of the same encouragement today that God shared with me a few years ago. He has made you enough!
New Group Starting in February:
Moms of Kids with Special Needs
Being a mom of a child with special needs has some unique challenges. And while God has absolutely made us enough for this job - it can be so helpful, inspiring, and life-giving to learn from others who are in the same situation too. That is why I'm passionate about creating a special group EXCLUSIVELY for Moms of Kids with Special Needs. The details are below. Come join us!
What is the Moms of Kids with Special Needs Mastermind Group?
A program committed to helping moms of special needs kids get the tools and support needed to personally thrive, best support their child, and be inspired by other women who understand. This group experience is like nothing else in Indy.
How does it work?
• Group of 4-10 individuals
• Once a month for 6 months
• 90 minute sessions
• Each session is a mix of training, discussion and action items, which can be implemented immediately
• Group includes materials, unlimited e-mail access to Carla between sessions, and one individual 30 minute coaching session to focus on your specific goals and challenges
• Group is fun, relaxed, and collaborative. Members share ideas, inspire and encourage one another.
Who should join?
• Moms of kids with special needs who want new skills to live proactive, positive, and intentionally
• Moms of kids with special needs who want to share resources, encouragement and inspiration from other moms who “get it”
• Moms who are ready to personally tackle that next goal in their career, fitness, or home
• Moms who are ready to invest in themselves – for themselves, and in order to be the best for their family
When does it start?
Time: 7:00 – 8:30 pm
Dates: Feb. 21, Mar. 21, Apr. 18, May 16, June 13, and July 11
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Cost: $37 a month
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Creamy Chicken Chili
It's crock pot and soup season! Here is one of my family's new favorites to stay warm on a cold day. It's easy and oh so yummy.
(Note: This recipe serves about 8 - 10)
2 cans black beans
2 cans corn, undrained
2 cans Rotel, undrained
2 packages of ranch dressing mix
2 tsp cumin
2 heaping tsp chili powder
2 tsp onion powder
2 - 8 oz package of low fat cream cheese
4 chicken breasts
Place chicken at the bottom of the crock pot. (Chicken can be frozen or thawed.) Rinse and drain black beans. Pour corn (undrained), Rotel (undrained), and black beans over chicken. Top with seasonings and ranch mix. Stir together. Place cream cheese on top. Cover with lid and cook on low for 6-8 hours. Stir cream cheese into chili. Use two forks to shred chicken. Stir together and serve. Top with shredded cheese, sour cream, or tortilla chips.
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