"My teenager just doesn’t listen to me! They’re always on their phone, texting or playing games. They sleep all the time. They never want to talk to me, and when they do, it’s so sarcastic! Help!"
Does this sound familiar? We often hear from parents of teenagers that they find it difficult to connect with their kids when they reach the adolescent stage of life. Many parents feel that this is the most daunting time to be a parent. Helping your teenager navigate through this period of life in between childhood and adulthood can be as confusing and frustrating for you, as it is for them.
Take heart, parents! It doesn’t have to be a hard as you might think, and you don’t have to do it alone. Here are 12 tips for understanding and parenting your teenager:
1. Expect inconsistencies
Teenagers are in the process of becoming independent, and it is a process that doesn’t happen overnight. One day your teenager may act like he needs your help; the next day he doesn’t want to hear anything you have to say. That’s not about you! Understand that this unpredictability in your teenager is normal, and while it may feel personal, try not to take it personally.
This summer I watched a mommy bird build a nest in our back yard. Never before had I witnessed such a cycle of nature. This mommy bird was very nurturing and protective. Every day she sat on her little eggs with a watchful eye. When her babies hatched, she was faithful to care for them. She guarded them, she nourished them and she taught them. Then, as is God’s design, one day the nest was empty.
Empty Nest and Mixed Emotions
Like the mommy bird, as parents, we are nurturing and protective. We care for our babies, we guard them, we tend to their basic needs, and we do our best to meet their emotional and spiritual needs, knowing that the day will come when they will be out in the world on their own. When that day arrives, it is common for parents to have mixed emotions.
Mothers, especially, might find themselves feeling very sad or even depressed. Emotions of grief and loneliness can be overwhelming. It can also bring about feelings of ...READ MORE HERE
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