Marriages of Nabi Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam
The position of women in Islâm has been distorted to such an extent that Islâm is almost always equated with male superiority and female inferiority. The marital life of Nabî Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam in particular has been maligned to show how women in Islâm are considered as sensual objects whose role is to gravitate to the lustful advances of domineering men.
Many questions have been posed on the marriages of Nabî Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam which have historically been used to attempt besmirch His integrity and sow seeds of doubt among his followers. As Muslims, we accept that Muhammad Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam never said or did anything without clear divine sanction and permission. The Qur’ân says: “He (the Prophet) never speaks (or does) anything out of his own desire, but what was revealed to him…” (Sûrah An-Najm 53:3) His marriages were thus contracted on the basis of divine decree.
First stage: Even though the Nabi Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam was extremely handsome and well built, his youthful life up to the age of 25 was a display of a chaste and unblemished morality. No critic has been able to raise his finger of scorn in this period of his life.
Second stage: Nabî Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam married at the age of twenty-five. Whom did he marry? Khadîjah Radhi-Allâhu 'anhâ who was forty years old, twice widowed and fifteen years his senior! The Prophet led a monogamous life up to the age of fifty. He did not take a second wife while Khadîjah Radhi-Allâhu anhâ was alive. This monogamous relationship, which lasted nearly 25 years, until Khadîjah’s death, was contrary to the then-Jewish, Christian and Arab traditions that allowed for unlimited wives.
In the same year he married ‘Âishah Radhi-Allâhu anhâ, who was still at a young age. This marriage was only consummated when she had become of age. The Prophet lived with these two wives up to the age of 56.
Third stage: From the age of 56 to 60 he had taken nine wives within a period of four years. This was a period of intense struggle for Islâm and the Muslims. Muslims had to face a continuous barrage of attack from the enemies. In this period:
- The battles of Badr and Uhud took place in the 2nd and 3rd year after Hijrah.
- The Jewish tribe of Banû Nadhîr were banished from Madînah.
- The battle of Muraisî’ took place in the 5th year of Hijrah.
- In the same year the entire Arabian Peninsula joined forces to attack the Muslims.
- In the 6th year, the Prophet and the Muslims were barred from entering Makkah, which led to the Treaty of Hudaibiyah.
- In the 7th year a Jew administered poison to the food of Nabî Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam.
- The conquest of Makkah took place in the 8th year. This was a time when Nabî Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam spent his days on the battlefield and his nights in solemn prayer. This was hardly a time for pleasure or gratification. Why then did he take nine wives in this period?
Reasons for marriages:
The Prophet Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam came to establish morality among human kind. Whilst he awarded the death sentence for adultery he was not forgetful of the human instinct of passion. Warfare meant the death of a large number of males, which resulted in an equally large number of widows who needed both companionship and protection. The opening verses of Sûrah An-Nisâ’ thus allowed Muslim males to marry these widows if they could be just and fair to them. They were instructed to provide for them by taking them into marriage rather than exploit their vulnerability. The Prophet Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam himself set the example by marrying women who were widowed as a result of war thereby establishing a stable social environment.
Nabî Sallallâhu 'alayhi wasallam came as a guide for both men and women. He is the only Prophet whose public and private life is so meticulously recorded. Preserved in the sharp minds of his wives and his Companions, those narrations comprise the “daily life manual” for Muslims to follow until the end of time.
Through these marriages he taught the Ummah how to be compassionate, not just to the young and beautiful maidens, but also to the weak and destitute widows, divorcees, orphans, and elderly women. Islâm teaches that women are to be respected, protected, and cared for by their menfolk.
“The Prophet is closer to the believers than their own selves and his wives are their mothers.” (33:6)
May Allâh Ta’âlâ grant us the true understanding of our Dîn and protect our Îmân. Âmîn
ACJU Education Division Events & Updates
Programs were organized to distribute Exercise books & Shoes to students affected by the floods at Wadugodwatta, Wellampitiya, on the 31st of December 2016.
Spiritual motivation programs were conducted at the following schools:
- At the Fathima Muslim Ladies College, by Ash Shaikh Murshid Mulaffar, on the 10th of January on the topic,'The Great Qualities & Conduct of Our Beloved Nabi (Salallahu alahi wa sallam)'.
- At the Al Hijra Maha Vidyalaya, by Ash Shaikh Mafahim, on the 10th of January on the topic,'Qualities of Our Beloved Nabi (Salallahu alahi wa sallam)'.
- At the Khairiya Muslim Ladies College, by Ash Shaikh Arshad AthaurRahman, on the 10th of January on the topic,'Love of Nabi (Salallahu alahi wa sallam)'.
A seminar on 'Tips to improve the English Language' was conducted at Al Hidaya Maha Vidiyalaya on the 10th of January.
A function to distribute School uniforms for needy students, was conducted at the Meelad Maha Vidiyalaya on the 11th of January.
A workshop for the parents of new admission students for 2017, was conducted at the Fathima Muslim Ladies College on the 11th of January on the 'Importance of Parental Support to Enhance Education'.
2017.01.09 - ACJU's Message of Condolence on the Demise of Justice C.G. Weeramantry.
Abdullah ibn Mas'ud (RadhiyAllahu anhu) reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:
There should be no envy but only in case of two persons: one having been endowed with wealth and power to spend it in the cause of Truth, and (the other) who has been endowed with wisdom and he decides cases with the help of it and teaches it (to others). Sahih Muslim