EQ4U - November 2019 Newsletter

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Do not teach your children never to be angry;
teach them how to be angry.


Hi <<First Name>>,

Wow, what a hectic few months and my sincerest apologies for not publishing an October newsletter, my commitments in October were really challenging. During October we had people from our Middle East Africa region attending EQ Certifications in South Africa. We had a really powerful group of people attend the EQ Core Certification with the aim of increasing their skill set to teach and facilitate EQ. This was followed by the Advanced EQ Facilitator Certification, which I attended along with some of the most incredible highly experienced facilitators, where we were able to further enhance our own facilitation skills as well as go deeper into our own EQ. This was truly a life changing experience for many of us, and I hope you'll get to benefit from this when you attend our workshops.
Over the last couple of months and newsletters we have really focused on organizations and the drivers of effectiveness within them as reflected through the Vital Signs Model. Hopefully you still remember what the 5 main drivers are but just in case, here is a recap.
Trust, which is crucial, was at the centre, surrounded by four other main drivers namely: motivation, teamwork, change and execution.

Vital Signs Pulse Points
Having spent so much time focusing on organizations, I have decided to take a deeper look into EQ and the importance of teaching this skill in our schooling system as our focus for this month.

Thinking of the education system, I often find myself asking the question, “How can we best educate children for the new world of work?”
Emotional intelligence is as crucial to our children’s future as the standard academic fare, and as such there is now a greater need for a broader preparation for life than the traditional school curriculum has offered.
We should be boosting the level of EQ within our youth and every parent, teacher, school and company should recognize the value this will ultimately bring to society and organizations as these children enter the workforce. If they do not learn this at home or in school, then organizations will need to teach them once they enter the workplace.
Children with greater EQ have been shown to have greater success with making and maintaining friendships, can manage conflict with peers better, have greater academic success and have lower absenteeism.
There is abundant research on the risks to children who don’t develop their EQ. These children who are unable to manage their emotions have a greater risk of self-medicating with drugs and alcohol, having issues in managing their anger, impulsivity, developing eating disorders, and overall engaging in more risky behaviors.

Learning how to become emotionally literate is one of the best investments that human beings can make for themselves, their children and their future as it is the first step to self-regulation.
Intelligence plus character is the true goal of education.
EQ develops from the early years as all exchanges children have with their parents, teachers and each other carry emotional messages.
As Emotional Intelligence means being smarter with our feelings, nearly everything we do throughout our lives depends on our EQ, from maintaining healthy relationships to achieving our goals.
It is therefore essential to understand that EQ needs to be included in our education system to ensure that our children are well equipped for the future, building relationships and dealing with the challenges of the world that may come along.
Photo: teachers training
So, if you are in the education industry start thinking about how you can play a part in getting EQ into schools. It may just be a very small part but that is a very important part to play and someone needs to drive it forward to not only benefit our children individually but also society as a whole, and help to build a better tomorrow together.

We teach mathematics by starting with the basics of adding and subtracting and multiplication. In the same way we need to start teaching the basics of emotions and how to understand them and use them to make better decisions and lead more balanced and satisfying lives.
There are some really simple ways of starting to get children to express their emotions. These could include: having an emotional check-in as they enter the classroom by selecting a face that best describes how they are feeling; or around the dinner table; or in the classroom by asking what their 'sweet' and 'sour' moments were for the day. There are great games and tools available like Emo-heads up or the Go Fish for Feelings game, as well as tools like the Emotion Board, or Sticky Feelings. Every opportunity to increase emotional vocabulary and understanding should be taken.
We also need to help children reframe 'failures' as opportunities to learn and grow, start recognizing effort, not just outcomes. Children need to be taught that anger is a powerful emotion that can give us the energy to bring about change and how to express their anger appropriately rather than to suppress it. The greatest lesson we can give our children is to model the behavior that we want them to learn.

As parents, educators, sports coaches, and leaders, we need to ask ourselves: are we showing up in the way we want our youth to behave?
As the end of the term arrives and our children have many weeks of holiday, we need to ensure that they are well equipped to make decisions that they understand the consequences of; to ensure that they are safe, healthy and happy.

Remember we are not born with consequential thinking – we need to learn it!
Emotions have taught mankind to reason.
If you are interested in supporting children in growing their EQ, you may find the following websites valuable for purchasing some of the tools I've mentioned.

You can also find information on EQ classes for children on the Life Heroes website, or contact Belinda on if you are interested in the Emotion Feeling Board shown in the image above.

Sticky Feelings game - email Candice:
Go Fish for Feelings game - email Cindy:


Dates of upcoming workshops will be announced in our December newsletter.

Yours in EQ,

Avril Kidd


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