Strife is guaranteed to come upon us. This is inevitable and especially amongst loved ones. We should take the example of Abram by solving the problem with a soft answer, consulting God's Word. Lot on the other hand gives an example of the selfish, independent man, who seeks the pride of life, the lust of the flesh, and lust of the eyes.
Turn to John 2:16
For everything in the world--the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life--comes not from the Father but from the world.
Lot's perspective in choosing was based on a worldly gain. Isn't it interesting that he was already abundantly rich? However, he still wanted more. The world will satisfy the flesh for a brief time. It's a temporary fix, and it always runs out. Only God can give you food and water for the soul that will never run out. God's word is your food and water. If you aren't filling your soul with God's word, then you will be hungry and thirsty. That's why all people seek out more land, more possessions, more sex, more food, more wine, more relationship, more shopping, more school, etc etc. These things are not bad things, as God freely gave them to us to enjoy, but they do not satisfy the depths of the soul. These things are temporary as we will all face the same after one day.
“Come, everyone who thirsts,
come to the waters;
and he who has no money,
come, buy and eat!
Come, buy wine and milk
without money and without price.
Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread,
and your labor for that which does not satisfy?
Listen diligently to me, and eat what is good,
and delight yourselves in rich food.
Incline your ear, and come to me;
hear, that your soul may live;
and I will make with you an everlasting covenant,
my steadfast, sure love for David.
Matthew Henry Commentary:
Passion and selfishness make men rude. Lot looked to the goodness of the land; therefore he doubted not that in such a fruitful soil he should certainly thrive. But what came of it? Those who, in choosing relations, callings, dwellings, or settlements, are guided and governed by the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye, or the pride of life, cannot expect God's presence or blessing.