Do you embrace change?  Does the idea of facing change cause you to worry, feel distressed or depressed?   Do you have intentions to change things in your life, but never seem to fulfill your goals? Let’s explore some of these patterns together….


      Change is the one thing that is constant.  Heraclitus, an ancient Greek philosopher, was one of the first to have said,  “Everything changes and nothing stands still” or as commonly paraphrased, “the one constant is change.”

Since change is constant, let’s look at the benefit of embracing change.  It is in our best interest to adapt to the process of change, especially when it is a situation that is imposed on us, and not of our choice. 
Many times unexpected circumstances can impose changes in our lifestyle that require us to develop new habits.  This can be a new job, financial loss, the loss of a loved one due to death, illness or relocation.  Would these scenarios trigger depression or anxiety for you? 


We have discussed the benefits of mindfulness in prior newsletters, and here again, it is through living mindfully that we can focus on the present situation and accept it with equanimity, just as it is.  

Mindfulness trains us to not cling to the past, nor grasp for the future.  It teaches us to be fully attentive and aware of the present, even if it includes sensations of pain or discomfort.  It is by being aware and breathing into the present moment that we can allow the body and mind to rest and not resist.


On the other hand, if you are the type of person that craves constant change as an avoidance of the present, then take notice of this habit, and reflect on the underlying reason.  Observe if there is underlying depression or anxiety. Impulsively staying busy and creating constant change usually results in unwanted consequences. This is a pattern in compulsive or addictive habits.  

A common example of this is seen when someone is not comfortable with the change in an ended relationship; they can "move on" too quickly from one relationship to the other without fully integrating their present life change.

Once you notice this trait, you can pause, then decide more contemplatively if it is time for a change. Perhaps you want to change but are in a stage of ambivalence.  Look at this diagram and see where you are in the cycle of change: 


The first step to intentional change, is awareness through contemplation.   It is awareness that the current behavior or situation is not working - something needs to change.

Sustaining the positive change which we intend for ourselves, requires repeating these steps as often as necessary. 

  • Contemplation provides the reason you decide to change.  Often when the "going gets tough,"  it is easy to relapse.  Remember your initial self-awareness that motivated you for change in the first place.   

  • Preparation is necessary to learn the skills needed to face and overcome the discomfort of change.  Take time to learn what is needed for your new lifestyle.  For example, if you want to change your eating habits, then develop a shopping list and meal plan for yourself that is realistic.  If you have an addiction to substances, preparation for detox and rehabilitation is essential to success.   

  • Action is putting what you have learned into practice.  Just talking about change does not create change.

  • Maintenance is sustaining your change.  It is supported when you surround yourself with like-minded people who can encourage you in difficult moments of the change process.   Maybe you can join a support group or informally have an "accountability partner" to help you stay on target.    


If chronic anxiety, depression, resistance, or compulsive habits surface when you go through life's changes, it is time to consult with a professional.  Wherever you are in the experience of change, either intentional or unexpected, consider the benefits of mindfulness, contemplation, learning new skills, and surrounding yourself with positive people who support your change process


Lydia Cerpa, LCSW has accepted an overseas assignment as Military Family Life Counselor (MFLC).  Lydia will be working on a military base in Germany providing supportive counseling to USA service members and their families.

Wellness Counseling will no longer be practicing at the Brickell office and is not accepting new clients.  If former clients wish to resume counseling, they are encouraged to look into their insurance provider network listing to find a currently available provider.

Future newsletters will continue to highlight themes of wellness and updates on the status of the office.  Please visit the Wellness FaceBook page and feel free to comment on the newsletter, share insights, questions or suggestions for future topics!

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